I”m reading a book that I recommend highly. It is Willpower by Roy Baumeister. No, it is not a “3 Steps to Controlling Your World” book.  He is a professor from Florida State University. He and others have done many studies about self-control or will power and have relied on other work as well to come up with some ideas that I am finding very useful.  I am going to post some of the ideas from time to time.

To have willpower is to connect

episodes across time.  Think about it – will power means that we have to treat the current situation as part of a pattern, not as an isolated event.  If I look at tonight”s piece of cake as “one piece of cake” that is sort of correct but more accurately it reflects a pattern of eating cake very often.  If I miss one appointment, is that unusual (for me it is) or is it one episode in a pattern.  When we think of each episode individually, i.e. “just this once” we will have MUCH LESS willpower than if we think of it as “another one in a pattern I want to change.”  Motto: Every episode must be treated as a moment to resist temptation.

more on Wednesday………….

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