I Don’t Care How You Feel
This isn’t completely true, of course, but it is a fun, radical thing for a psychologist like me to say. Feelings are my business and emotions
have an important place in each of our lives. Let me explain what I mean in today”s post.
Emotions are emotions; they may reflect reality and they may not have anything to do with reality. Just like the kid who wails, “Everybody hates me!!!” our feelings can be incorrect and lead us astray if we decide to act on them.
Let’s be constructive with feelings. Here are some ideas……….
1. Feelings provide information. First,
ask: “What do I feel?”
2. Next, ask: “What circumstance/person/event precipitated this feeling?”
3. With that information, ask: “Is this reasonable, important, or am I being a bit wacky?”
4. If I am wacky, it is best that I find something else to do with my mind. If my feelings are evoked by a reasonable event/person/circumstance, than I can decide whether or not to act on the information provided by my feelings.
Want a good read with obsession thrown in?