What Makes Love Last? part 1
The divorce rate in the U.S. is still between 40 – 50%. The likelihood that a married couple will celebrate their 20th wedding anniversary is 52% for women and 56% for men – not great odds. But, there are now many studies that have followed marriages over the years so psychologists have some good ideas about what encourages longevity. Some of the factors are in your control, others are not.
Factors that are only partially in your control –
- Ethnicity – Asian women and foreign born men have marriages that last 20 years. African American women have the lowest rate of reaching the 20 year mark.
- Education – Women with college degrees have longer lasting marriages than women with h.s. diplomas.
- Age – Those who marry in their teens are more likely to divorce than older individuals.
- Money – People with no assets are more likely to divorce than those people with assets. Money can be a huge source of tension so if there is extra, you reduce the strain and arguments.
- Stress – High stress causes problems, especially when there is no chance of relief and time to recharge.
- Feelings prior to marriage – Premarital cold feet in women is a bad sign; no predictive value in men’s feet.
Tomorrow, I will post the factors that help make love last. Please come back.
If you want to read a different kind of love/mystery story, check out my novel, Object of Obsession.