Life Ain’t For Sissies*

IDEAS FROM PSYCHOLOGY THAT MAKE LIFE BETTER

Most posts are observations, derived from my work as a clinical psychologist, teacher, writer, and aging adult.  Please join the dialogue.

*a nod to Bette Davis, who is reported to have said, “Old age ain’t for sissies.”

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Cyber-Bullying

 Technology has improved bullying.     Here is why cyber-bullies are worse than regular old lousy bullies….. read at www.survive45.net/blog

Sex is a Five Letter Word

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It has been stunning to watch the sexual predators fall with the speed of video characters in an online game. To women who have known how entrenched sexual harassment is, the daily outing of sexual predators is astonishing.  Read more at www.survive45.net/blog.

Cartoon Caption Contest

It’s your turn!!!     Survive45.net has been posting weekly Li’l Donnie cartoons. For Thanksgiving, the caption is up to you.

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Send your caption to 64survive45@gmail.com and maybe your entry will be the winner. Have fun.

SURVIVING THANKSGIVING AND THE HOLIDAY SEASON

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For tips on sanely and compassionately getting through Thanksgiving and the holidays, read www.survive45.net/blog.

Anti-Social Personality Disorder

There has been speculation in the news these days about whether or not some politicians have anti-social personality disorders. This disorder is also know as psychopath or sociopath, depending on which edition of the manual you are reading. Anyway, here’s a brief description of ASPD. Anti-social personality disorder, ASPD, (approximately 1% of the general population) is marked by persistent rule breaking (not always criminal), reckless behaviors, being egocentric, deceitful, having an anti-authority attitude, and showing a lack of regard for the feelings of others.  Therefore, the motivations that guide many of us – conscience, concern for others, empathy and compassion, respect for authority or rules, guilt, on and on, don’t apply.  As you can imagine, or perhaps you are unlucky enough to have experienced someone with this disorder, this is a major problem for the individual and for those who love or work with him or her.

ASPD is notably unstudied by researchers and, of course, that deficit contributes to professionals having few good ideas for treatment.  The reason for the lack of scientific study is probably because psychologists are pessimistic about the outcome of treatment so they don’t invest their time studying it. ASPD can emerge from some combination of basic temperament and genetic fragility coupled with environmental interactions such as harsh and inconsistent parenting, being brought up in homes with domestic violence, and rejection.

Treatment is unclear. Few individuals seek treatment directly for this disorder; when people come in, they usually want help with other co-existing problems such as depression, substance abuse, or marital discord.  More often, the people who come in to seek help are co-workers who are being treated badly, bosses who are at their wit’s end, and partners who have terrible trouble living with people with ASPD.

If you are a writer interested in learning more about character or personality traits, take a look at my book, The Writer’s Guide To Character Traits.

A new Li’l Donnie cartoon

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What does it mean to “Man Up”?

Dr. Martha Christensen provides a  different take on whether mental health plays a role in mass shootings. It’s not the same old, same old rehash of the arguments we already know. Read hedreamstimefree_1365290 question mark manr latest blog post https://www.survive45.net/…/…/06/What-does-it-mean-to-Man-Up.

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Perception

You and I may look at the same person or object but see different things.

Here’s what happened….. I walked into the lobby elevator at my downtown office on Friday morning.  A man about my age entered right after me.   The elevator rose to the 8th floor, stopped, the door opened, and a young man lumbered in.  He was huge!  Football player big; blot out the sun, fill the door opening big.  I stared at his back (which was the size of both my daughters in down winter coats).  So did the older guy. The three of us continued up for several more floors and then the young man got out on the 12th floor (not a gym, maybe he just needed eyeglasses). The door slid closed behind him and the older man turned to me and said, “I’d hate to run into him on a football field.”  Startled, I responded honestly with the idea that had been circling my mind, “I was just thinking that I’d hate to have to feed him!”

Resistance is an honorable American tradition

“I shall earnestly and persistantly continue to urge all women to the practical recognition of the old Revolutionary maxim. Resistance to tyranny is obedience to God.”         Susan B. Anthony

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